When his fantasy is not your fantasy

Okay ladies, Let's talk. It seems as women our idea of "fantasy" is wine, candle light, no children in the back ground, no television on, and our husbands all to ourselves. His fantasy is football and a bunch of men sitting around drinking, beer eating hot wings and talking football stats. What happens when these two worlds collide can be frustrating!  How can we as women defend ourselves and what we want and need against this? I say we need to stop playing defense and start playing more offense! Here is what I mean by that. So he watches Thursday football at home. That's fine. The kids should be in bed by then. You are probably cleaning up the kitchen after dinner. No big deal. Then Saturday college football day. This is a game or possibly two. Then Sunday comes this is football from from noon til ten p.m. What are we going to do? Let's try this....... Thursday night bring in the laundry to the couch. Fold it, do a little ironing and have a glass of wine. He can sit and watch the game and you are with him. Oh and try not to talk during a play. On a time out or a commercial is fine. Then Friday night you should go ahead and ask " Hey honey, what time is your game coming on tomorrow?" Then ask at this point if you need any help with something on Saturday.  For example: If his game is not til three p.m. can you take little Johnny to his game at noon, so I can have lunch with the girls?  Thanks. Can I bring home some beer and wings for your game? Are you following me ladies? While you and the girls are at lunch discuss Sunday. Maybe one of you has a house that could hold a couple of families. Make some chili and have everyone over for a game on Sunday. Encourage the men to take the boys outside at half time to throw the ball around , while the ladies clean up lunch. Then set out a bucket or two of beer and take the kids to the park and let the men finish the game. I think this way the family is together. And everyone gets a little and gives a little. I say it is worth a try. I have found it is all in my attitude with my husband. So try it and give me some feedback.